Great question — this stuff can feel confusing when it’s all new, especially since everyone seems to have different ideas about what a “relationship” even is. A boyfriend-girlfriend relationship (or any kind of relationship!) can mean different things to different people. Sometimes it just means two people like each other and want to spend more time together — texting, hanging out, sitting next to each other at lunch, or calling each other cute nicknames.
What really matters is how you’re treated. Any kind of relationship should feel safe, respectful and kind. You should never feel pressured, uncomfortable, or like you have to change who you are to make someone happy. If anything feels off, or you're just not sure how to handle it, it’s always okay to talk to someone you trust — like a parent, carer, teacher or support person at school. Or you can call Kids Helpline (1800 55 1800) anytime for a chat.
That sounds really hard — feeling left out by people you care about can be one of the worst feelings. You’re not being dramatic, and it makes sense that this would hurt. It can feel super lonely when you’ve tried to reach out and things still feel off. Just know: you haven’t done anything wrong.
Sometimes friendships shift or change, and it’s not your fault. If things aren’t working with your usual group, try linking up with someone outside your class — maybe through a lunch club, sport, or even a school helper or buddy program.
If you feel stuck, talk to a trusted adult at school like a teacher, chaplain, or wellbeing staff. They might be able to help you connect with people who are kinder and more inclusive. You deserve friends who actually want to hang out with you — not ones who leave you guessing.
And if you ever just need to talk it out, Kids Helpline (1800 55 1800) is free, anonymous, and open 24/7.
It makes total sense that you want to express yourself through your hair. Trying new styles is a big part of figuring out who you are — and it’s okay if that doesn’t line up with what other people expect. Wanting short hair doesn’t mean anything’s “wrong” with you. It just means you’re being true to yourself.
If your mum reacted strongly, she might’ve just been caught off guard, not angry at you.
Give it a bit of time, then try having a calm convo about what this change means to you. You don’t need to convince her, just share where you're coming from. As for other people – you don’t owe anyone a big explanation. A simple “I felt like trying something new” is more than enough. And if you need someone to talk to, a teacher, school support person, or Kids Helpline (1800 55 1800) is always there.
It can feel really unfair when you’re trying to make your own choices, but the grown-ups in your life don’t agree. Wanting to choose your own friends is normal — especially when you’re just figuring out who feels right to be around.
Try having a calm chat with your mum about what you like in your friends, and how it makes you feel when she doesn’t support your choices. If that’s hard, a teacher or another trusted adult might help you talk it out.
