Breakups are weird, hey? You can care about someone and still know the relationship had to end — and that can leave a lot of feelings floating around after. It sounds like you ended things with care, and now you’re just trying to figure out where things sit. That’s a really thoughtful place to be.
Now, I totally get why part of you feels like he should reach out first — you broke it off, he was upset, and it feels fair for him to show he’s open to being mates again. But if what you really want is to reconnect and clear the air, it’s okay to go first. Reaching out doesn’t mean you’re backtracking — it just means you’re being honest about wanting a respectful friendship.
You could send a chill message like, “Hey, I know things were a bit rough when we broke up — I’d be open to catching up sometime if you’re cool with that.” Keep it simple. No pressure. If he’s not ready, that’s okay too — at least you’ll know you showed up with kindness.
Wanting things to end on good terms isn’t weak. It’s really brave and mature! And whatever happens, the way you’re handling this already says a lot about who you are.
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If it’s just been a delay, we’re really sorry — we are a small team and have been out and about at schools and it’s been a bit of a busy end to term. Every single question matters to us, and we want to give them the time and thought they deserve. Big thank you for your patience — we haven’t forgotten you. ?
If you’re seeing signs of ADHD in yourself and don’t feel like you can bring it up at home right now — that’s really tough. Like, genuinely hard. But you’re not stuck. You still deserve support, and there are ways to get it.
ADHD — especially the inattentive type — gets missed all the time. Especially if you're not bouncing off the walls or getting in trouble. Stuff like zoning out, forgetting what you just read, feeling overwhelmed for no clear reason, or constantly thinking, “Wait… what was I doing again?” Yeah, that’s real. And honestly? It can be exhausting.
We’re not doctors — and sadly, the RespectMe team watching 47 seasons of Grey’s Anatomy still doesn’t qualify us. But it’s completely valid that you’re noticing these things and looking for answers. Even if it’s not ADHD, there could be something else going on, or different ways to manage what you’re experiencing. You’re not alone, and you don’t have to figure it all out by yourself.
If talking to your family doesn’t feel safe or possible right now, reach out to someone at school — a guidance officer, youth health nurse, or a teacher you trust. They can help you figure out what’s going on and support you through the next steps.
Trying to understand how your brain works is a big deal — and you should be proud of yourself for even starting this process. That takes guts.
And if you need to talk now and want zero judgement, hit up Kids Helpline (1800 55 1800 or webchat). They’re open 24/7, and they are great to chat to — even if you’re not sure how to explain what’s going on yet.
Yep — totally, completely normal. Dreaming about masturbation, sex, or pleasure is something heaps of people experience (regardless of gender), especially during puberty. You’re not weird. You’re not broken. You’re not doing anything wrong.
While you’re asleep, your brain’s sorting through all kinds of things — feelings, hormones, curiosity, stress, stuff you've seen or thought about — and sometimes that shows up in your dreams. It doesn’t mean anything’s wrong with you. It doesn’t mean you're “too sexual.” It just means you’re human.
Sadly, the girls often get the message that their interest in intimacy, sex or sexuality is something to hide or be ashamed of — while guys get hyped up for the exact same stuff. That double standard? Total rubbish. Everyone deserves to feel safe and curious in their own body.
Bodies are private, personal, and powerful. Being curious about your own — and asking honest questions — is nothing to be ashamed of. We’re really glad you asked.
