There are a lot of sexual acts that young people might think are normal and common because they tend to happen a lot in porn. However, porn doesn’t always give a realistic image of healthy relationships. Just like every sexual act, you must make sure that all parties are consenting to each new act. If at any stage one person feels uncomfortable or changes their mind it’s ok to stop. That’s why checking in and communicating with your partner throughout is important. It is also important for you and your partner to consider everyone’s personal safety (that’s physical and emotional too) in any sexual activity.
This is a really personal decision and can be a very sensitive issue. People have very different feelings and opinions about porn. For a lot of young people, viewing porn is their first experience of sex so it is important to remember that porn can give people unrealistic ideas about sex, sexual acts, what women look like, what men look like and what people enjoy in sexual relationships. A lot of on- line porn involves acts of degradation and violence that do not reflect respectful behaviour in real life relationships.
This is a very personal decision for the girl to make, Not all girls shave/ wax their pubes. If this is something that you are considering, shaving or waxing the pubic area (for males and females) can result in infections, ingrown hairs and irritation. Growing pubic hair is a normal and natural thing that your body will do as you mature and should not be seen as disgusting or gross if one chooses to shave it off or not.
I think this is a really good question that shows courage and also a lot of maturity. Although this might be a really difficult conversation to have – not just for you but also for your mum, I’m sure your mum would appreciate being included in the discussion rather than finding an empty pill packet in your room. If you talk about this with your mum you are showing that you have thought about safe sex, possible repercussions and also responsible ways to prevent unplanned pregnancy. It’s important to remember that the pill/implanon only prevents pregnancy and does not protect against STI’s. If your mum is aware that you have been in a relationship for a while she might be anticipating that this conversation would come up at sometime but here are some helpful tips... Find a time when ma isn’t preoccupied so you can sit down (privately) and chat. Think about how you could bring it up. Be prepared to be asked some uncomfortable questions (when did you start having sex?) and try to be honest and calm.
