Yep — totally, completely normal. Dreaming about masturbation, sex, or pleasure is something heaps of people experience (regardless of gender), especially during puberty. You’re not weird. You’re not broken. You’re not doing anything wrong.
While you’re asleep, your brain’s sorting through all kinds of things — feelings, hormones, curiosity, stress, stuff you've seen or thought about — and sometimes that shows up in your dreams. It doesn’t mean anything’s wrong with you. It doesn’t mean you're “too sexual.” It just means you’re human.
Sadly, the girls often get the message that their interest in intimacy, sex or sexuality is something to hide or be ashamed of — while guys get hyped up for the exact same stuff. That double standard? Total rubbish. Everyone deserves to feel safe and curious in their own body.
Bodies are private, personal, and powerful. Being curious about your own — and asking honest questions — is nothing to be ashamed of. We’re really glad you asked.
Positive sexuality is about feeling good about who you are, what you want (or don’t want), and knowing you have the right to make your own choices when it comes to your body, your identity, and your relationships. It includes things like consent, communication, boundaries, pleasure, and respect—for yourself and for others.
Respectful relationships are the foundation for that. They help create the kind of connection where people feel safe to be honest, to say no without guilt, and to be accepted for who they are. Without respect, things like pressure, shame, and confusion can take over—and that’s the opposite of a positive experience.
When we learn how to treat people with care and communicate openly, we’re building the skills to have healthier, safer, and more enjoyable relationships now and in the future. That’s why it matters—and that’s what Respect Me is all about.
It can feel really lonely to keep ourselves hidden - we should never have to hide our true selves or face the hard stuff alone!
Making the decision to tell or show people who we are looks different for everyone, telling a safe adult is often a great place to start! If you think you might be ready to share and meet people who understand, there are safe spaces available! In Cairns for example, youth organisation YETI, run a group called SSAY-IT!
The group seeks to provide a safe and supportive, peer-led space for young people to explore their gender and sexuality. Diverse bodies, gender and sexuality may include but is definitely not limited to – Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Pansexual, Gender Fluid, Trans, Intersex, Queer, BrotherBois, SistaGirls, and people who are Questioning.
You can find more info about the group on IG @ssayit_yeti
