Think about how you are going to react before you do anything. You may feel jealous, hurt and betrayed by your friend and rejected and hurt by your crush. These are all really big and painful emotions and you need to sort through them before you do or say anything that might hurt you further. Think about if you want to save your friendship. Is your friend acting in a way to purposely hurt you? Does your friend know about how you feel towards the person they are now dating? If you decide to end the friendship, you should decide how to break up with your friend in a respectful and dignified way.
Lots of thoughts and feelings arise when you are around the person you like – and a big one is the fear of rejection. Most people are scared of being rejected because they think that it means that there is something wrong with them. But chances are, if you’re trying to act like anyone other than whom you really are, you’re probably acting like a bit of a douche. Just remember that this relationship stuff is new to everyone your age and the person you like is probably just as nervous about getting it right as you are.
It is normal and natural to think about someone you have a crush on a lot of the time. However, as with anything, if it starts to affect other areas of your life you may need to talk to an adult about what is happening for you. It is also important to keep your actions and behaviour towards the other person respectful. Being obsessive towards another person may be frightening for them and some actions may be against the law eg: stalking.
