Oral sex is sexual activity between partners in which someone's genitals or anus are being stimulated by someone else's mouth, lips or tongue. Anal sex is any kind of sex that involves a person's anus. That can be oral sex, manual sex, or it can also be anal intercourse, with either a penis or a sex toy.
Every girl is different and is going to enjoy different things. Again, it comes back to communicating with your partner about what they enjoy and what they don’t by asking questions and being honest with each other. Foreplay is a very important part of getting each other ready for sex, so take your time exploring each other’s bodies and discovering what you do and don’t like. Remember too, that what you might have seen in porn is not a realistic picture of what girls or guys really enjoy.
The length of sex is going to be different for each couple, and even each encounter between the same people will be different. Sometimes people might brag about how long they last or how big they are, but really these things have more to do with body image than they do with sexual enjoyment. The most important thing, if you are concerned about whether or not your partner is enjoying it, is to communicate honestly. See other questions in this section on pleasing a girl and foreplay for more information.
One of the big things that is important to remember is that there really isn’t such a thing as ‘normal.’ Everyone is different and is going to explore their bodies and sexuality in different ways. As long as you are masturbating in private and it isn’t interfering with your life and relationships it’s ok.
