The fact that they asked you first instead of just going for it? Huge green flag. That’s what consent actually looks like in real life, checking in, not guessing.
Now, you’ve already said you’d be okay with it, so this is really just about picking the convo back up. It doesn’t need to be deep or perfectly worded. You could literally say, “Hey, I’ve been thinking about what you said about kissing… do you still feel that way?”
If that feels a bit direct, you could also keep it lighter like, “Hey, random but I keep thinking about that kissing convo 👀” or bring it up naturally next time you’re chatting. There’s no perfect way to do it, just something that feels like you.
Just keep it mutual, clear, and pressure-free for both of you whilst also confirming their consent. You’re allowed to check in, change your mind, take things slow, or even laugh about how awkward it feels. That’s all part of it.
Great question, and thank you for trusting us with it.
Quick note for readers: a queerplatonic relationship is a close, committed relationship that might not fit typical “friend” or “romantic” labels. It can look different for everyone, which is why checking in like this matters so much.
Yes. People express gender in heaps of different ways. Some boys are sporty and traditionally “masculine”, some are soft, creative, stylish, or more feminine — and a lot of people are a mix of everything.
Being a “femboy” is just one way someone might express themselves. And liking someone who presents that way is completely fine too.
Yep — totally, completely normal. Dreaming about masturbation, sex, or pleasure is something heaps of people experience (regardless of gender), especially during puberty. You’re not weird. You’re not broken. You’re not doing anything wrong.
While you’re asleep, your brain’s sorting through all kinds of things — feelings, hormones, curiosity, stress, stuff you've seen or thought about — and sometimes that shows up in your dreams. It doesn’t mean anything’s wrong with you. It doesn’t mean you're “too sexual.” It just means you’re human.
Sadly, the girls often get the message that their interest in intimacy, sex or sexuality is something to hide or be ashamed of — while guys get hyped up for the exact same stuff. That double standard? Total rubbish. Everyone deserves to feel safe and curious in their own body.
Bodies are private, personal, and powerful. Being curious about your own — and asking honest questions — is nothing to be ashamed of. We’re really glad you asked.
Positive sexuality is about feeling good about who you are, what you want (or don’t want), and knowing you have the right to make your own choices when it comes to your body, your identity, and your relationships. It includes things like consent, communication, boundaries, pleasure, and respect—for yourself and for others.
Respectful relationships are the foundation for that. They help create the kind of connection where people feel safe to be honest, to say no without guilt, and to be accepted for who they are. Without respect, things like pressure, shame, and confusion can take over—and that’s the opposite of a positive experience.
When we learn how to treat people with care and communicate openly, we’re building the skills to have healthier, safer, and more enjoyable relationships now and in the future. That’s why it matters—and that’s what Respect Me is all about.
