First off — trying to understand your brain better is seriously brave. And way more common than people realise. 

Now, those online ADHD quizzes? Yeah, they can feel weirdly accurate — like, “Cool, diagnosed myself in five minutes. Slay.” But ADHD doesn’t look the same for everyone — especially for girls. So, if the quiz screamed YES but you don’t relate to everything your ADHD friends say? That actually makes sense. 

If you want proper answers, the next step is seeing a doctor or psychologist for an assessment. At 12, that usually means your parent or carer will need to be involved — but that doesn’t mean you have to wait for them to totally get it before getting support. 

Try talking to someone at school — like your guidance officer, youth health nurse, or a teacher you trust. They can help you figure out how to bring it up at home, or how to start getting the help you need. And if you want to talk it through with someone outside of school or home, you can reach out to Kids Helpline (1800 55 1800) or Headspace Cairns — they’re kind, confidential, and really good at listening. 

Wanting help doesn’t make you dramatic or attention-seeking — it means you’ve noticed things are feeling hard and you’re doing something about it. That’s powerful.